me, myself and I

Here I am, sitting in front of my laptop, have 2 cans of guiness, with no one in my flat( all of them have gone back to their hometown :) how nice it is,i wish that my hometown is just couples of miles away:()) thinking of wht should i write in my blog for ths week. I suppose to do my works but I just cannot be bothered with that, thinking that there is still so much time before the deadline, HOW LAZY I AM!!!
Sometimes, people judge me from the first time they saw me- like : Alice is too quiet,studious, nerd or even have no fun. However, once they get to know me better, they tend to be surprised as I am not the way I am as what they thought to be. People/my friends get to know me better by the time flies, it is because that I do not really talk about my achievements or my personal life to persons who I do not really know. I felt it very strange to talk freely to not too known friends about my personal life/love life, probably i am either too secretive about it or conservative. Another reason is because I do not think of the use of me telling everyone about my personal/love life as even if i tell them, they will not be able to help me with that, so why should i burden them with the problem? Like the other day, I was talking to one of my mates/ asking him about valentine's thingy, suddenly in the middle of 'questioning and answering' time; a question of 'who is he' who gave me a card came out. I did not answer him. The reason is not because I do not want to answer him or think that he is a 'busybody' but it is because even if i tell him, he does not know who the guy is.
On the other hand, if I were a different type of Alice Angko, like the one who is more open. For example the one who can talk freely about herself, it makes me think that I am a very show off person. I want people or my friends to know me because of who I am- alice is alice; not because of I am the daughter of who and who or what I have achieved or gained so far in my life. One will get to know about it when one has known me for quite some time or throughly.
Another problem about me is I can be very cautious sometimes about everything when I am with someone who i do not really know. Thus , when I am replying to their questions,it will be quite slow as I need to think on how i should answer him/her or even sometimes i will just be quite as i do not know them. I can be very quite, dont talk much when i feel uncomfortable or when i have no mood to talk or even when i have no topic to talk to that person. It can be seen from my facial expression as well ( prob i am just too transparent sometimes :)) I tend to let strangers/not close mates to think about what they want to think about me, 'let them be as you do not knw me, you do not know who i am'. if thats the way they want to think about me, let them be- some has even called me as a nerd. I can be playful when I am with my close friends as they are trustable but not with 'strangers' as I need to take care of myself. In fact, i do have a friend who i have known for about five years and he has just known how playful ( study hard and play hard) i am last year (2006). I think it is necessary to gain trust among friends / close friends as they are your second family. Sometimes, I can feel straight away whether that person is trustable or not, but further observation need to be done to clarify it as instinct can be wrong. A person is trustable/responsible/you feel comfortable with, when you can click straight away with them. I can feel that too when that person is interested in talkin to me.
There are indeed times for study and times for playing, some people do not know how to differentiate it.
well thats what i have in my mind so far,or thats about me so far...to be continue.. if i still have thing s to write about myself. :)

Lists of the things that I hate/dont like:
1. waiting people especially people who know that others are waiting but they still take their own sweet time for make up etc without considering the presence of the others who wait for her/him.
2. people who are 'caper'( cari perhatian)/ want to get attraction/over-reacted
3.fake people such as they can be so nice to each other like praising each other but behind they can be back stabbers. one is able to say whatever nice en b*** things but whatever she said is nothing- blank
4. waiting people shopping especially the one who is not able to made up her mind one/ lembek- the one who keep trying one cloth after another but in the end, nt buying anything, etc.
5 wasting time without doing anything
6. 'insisting/ forceable' people- people who like to force others to do something for her/him even though it is not that person's job to do so.
That's it so far...

Some professional law course students tend to think that other professional law courses is not as difficult as the former. The other day, i was talking to one of BVC students through msn, first thing that she asked me was 'which course are u in'?
my replied 'master' and the next thing that came out from her mouth was 'master is not hard rite? BVC is very difficult /BVC is very difficult compared to master'. hello, how can u know that master course is not tough as you have never taken master course before. I believe these type of students always think that they are superior compare to other professional law courses. It cannot be deniable that BVC is tough but each law course after LLB is not easy as well, I believe each law student is struggling to get their works done and no one is superior to who and whom. Pikiran cetek lar!!

Is it alright to jugde a person from his/her appearance/first impression etc? A lot of people do that, including me sometimes ;P. However, the best way to judge a person is to know them throughly before claiming wht type of persons are they. On the other hand, sometimes, one can just sense whether that person is trustable, fake or... etc. any opinion/suggestion?

fri 16 march 2007

it is a glass of beer with a phrase 'good health'.....?????!!!!
glasses in 0 degrees

my first can of guinness since last year ;P

law and medical students; abortion

Last night, I did have a very interesting discussion/conversation with one of my friends, she was telling me that law students and medical students have different perspectives in dealing with a particular topic. Is that true? According to her, that medical students tend to speak based on scientific evidence ( the existence of a particular thing must be proved before they can say it out) as they are dealing with human bodies. On the other hand, law students tend to twist our words, that we know how to play with words and not necessarily based on facts. In my opinion, it is true that as a lawyer, one must be able to use nice en beautiful words to impress clients, judges, opponents, etc but we do must speak based on the facts as well. It is because, speaking out anything ( words are beautifully come out) does not mean that one is going to win the case without grounds to support the case ( exceptional prob in closing speech). It is true that one must know how to twist words but it is only one of the factors.
Looking/Comparing these two fields fr my point of view; basically are almost similar in the sense that both dealing with humans, and the life and death of a person. For the medicals, they deal with diseases in human bodies, how to treat and cure them, life of patients etc. While for the law, we deal with human beings as well and whether the client is going to be free or serve his/her sentence behind the bar( jail, life imprisonment, death sentence).
Secondly, another topic that came out from our mind was about abortion. According to Abortion Act 1967, abortion is allowed to be performed when continuance of pregnancy involved a greater risk to physical/ mental health of the woman/ her existing children. The woman actual/ reasonably foreseeable future environment must be taken into account. Abortion up to 24 weeks are allowed if substantial risk that the child when born would suffer 'such physical/ mental abnormalities as to be seriously handicapped. If there is 'foreseeable future' that the unborn child is going to be a handicapped, is that mean that handicapped child has no right to enjoy life in this world? How about is the 'foreseeable future' or evidence/ report which stated that the child will be handicapped, turn out to be inaccurate? it will not just ruin the right to life of the unborn child but also any other right which he/ she is entitled to.
So, should abortion be legalize or not? in my opinion , legalization of abortion is good as when abortion is not legalized, pregnant girls or women may just go to unhealthy or non-hygienic clinics etc to have abortions. However, there may be disadvantages of legalization of abortion.
Without looking at the law, what is the best and suitable time to have an abortion if a girl/ a woman gets pregnant? I think there are a lot of factors that need to be taken into account such as age, environment i.e. society/family which one has been brought up, one's situations etc. Age- whether the girl/ woman is too young or too old to be pregnant, environment- whether the society is from modernize / liberal society or conservative society, and one 's situations- factors surrounding her.

You Know You're From Britain When...

You believe that Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday are all good nights for drinking. Sunday day is also entirely reasonable. You're always a half an hour late to work ... no-one notices or cares. Coming to work with a hangover is entirely accepted and indeed expected at least once a week. You can actually give directions to some of those annoying tourists in Oxford Street! You step over a drunk in the tube station rather than offering to help them. You don't even bother looking out of the window when you get up in the morning to check what the day is like. You know it is overcast. You consider a suit to be normal attire for the pub. You expect men to actually cut, comb and style their hair (using hair products). And to wear decent clothes. You dissolve in laughter when listening to the funny accent of the Aussie international telephone operator (or on TV!). You think �40 for a haircut is quite reasonable. You can't remember what 'customer service' means. After a big night out you find yourself looking for a Curry house More than three hours sunlight on summer days seems excessive. You don't think twice about tipping your hairdresser You finish every sentence with 'Cheers' or 'Yeah'. You only just realise you have lost your sunnies, you left them in Greece 2 summers ago. You like English cuisine. I mean, it's hard to beat a full English breakfast. You are on to your 6th umbrella and your second overcoat... this year You've bought a disposable baby BBQ from Tesco. A day at the beach means wearing the warmest clothes you own while standing on golf ball-size pebbles and the thought of swimming doesn't even enter your head. You always call soccer football and you have a team and it's not Manchester United. You don't think twice about buying a packaged sandwich. A sunny lunchtime means searching for a patch of grass and stripping off practically down to your underwear You've accepted queuing as a way of life. You believe that every American is a fatass addicted to hamburgers and hotdogs. You despise the French (but then, who doesn't?). You actually get these jokes and pass them on to other friends from Britan.

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You are very independent and self-centered. You don't solve other people's problems - and you don't expect them to solve yours. Your look is put together, classic, and stylish. You always look fashionable without trying. You have the perfect blend of confidence and class. You're proud of who you are - but you don't broadcast it. In relationships, you tend to be very romantic and demanding. You'll treat your partner like gold, but you expect a lot in return.

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Your Birthdate: September 7

Calm and understated, you struggle to express your love with words. Over time, your partner learns to recognize your passion by the actions you take. You're good at wooing someone slowly, without them even realizing it! Number of True Loves You'll Have: 1 Number of Times You'll Have Your Heart Broken: 2 You are most compatible with people born on the 7th, 16th, and 25th of the month.

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women in developed and developing countries

Last week, i had a seminar of forestry resources on natural resources and we were discussing points whereby women in developing countries especially the one who live in rural areas; has no right or it is their culture to be quiet, where the men are the one who speak out for them. It is believed that men are the bread winner and the head of households therefore, every decision made by the men. However, for works such as picking or collecting woods are done by the women but they do not have rights to say what's on their mind. On the other hand, women in developed countries, have more courage/ rights to speak out for their own, it is either because they are more educated compare to its counterparts or those countries have been through modernization.
In developing countries, such as Indonesia, i remembered when i was young, the elderly people such as parents,relatives, teachers, would tell us that husband/father is the breadwinner and he is the head of the household. Isnt that can be interpreted that men i.e husband/father is the one who decide on everything? while the role of a wife is inferior than the husband? while some believe that husband and wife have equal position. I think it affects us when we study overseas as it can be seen that girls/ women from developing countries are more reserved and shy compared to developed one. Another problem is because of the language.

would be it worth treating someone nicely even though he/she has treated you like shit? you may not think that one has treated you like that as you think that is normal, but to an outsider it is like shit. You have been nice to that person because you have felt in love with one and perhaps, as a result of that 'love', all you do are to get his attention such as act nicely ( 'hopefully he/she will love me back'!!). Would it be worth to do so when you have no clue on what will it be in the future? he/ she may just still a stranger, a fren, a mate, or....
In order to make that things work, one must have courage to say it out, but there will be a consequence such as u may be rejected or even accepted, well it is depended on respond from another party. If it is rejected, sometimes the feeling of 'shame' may come out especially if these two persons are the type who meet each other every day, there will be awkward feeling, nothing will be the same. However, it will be a 'major happiness' when the answer is 'yes'.
After all ths efforts, i think it is depended on the parties themselves and whether they do have fate to be with each other, it may be ridiculous to believe in fate but without it nothing will work out, no matter how hard you try to be nice and try to get to know one. Sometimes, it is unfair things in this world where one party may in deeply in love with the other party but nothing in return from the other party, it hurts. Why can it be where one party love the other party and the other party love that person back? in such a case, there will be no pain, which i think is good.

Another issue in my mind is , last year during my final year undergraduate course in Bristol, i used to listen to people greeting each other by saying 'hey u alrite' ( probably a short term for hey are u alrite?). However, this year, I am getting use to listen people say 'hey, how is it going' 'wht u been up to '
' wht u been up to' is ok but 'how is it going' how are we going to reply when there is nothing going on?

women' sensitivity, politeness and blank promises/lip services

Is it true to say that women are more sensitive compared to men? as sometimes, women are able to sense as to whether they are accepted in a particular situation or not. For example, we are able to sense the acceptance when people are willing to talk and stay longer with us. The feeling of being not accepted arises when they are willing to talk to you but it is because of courtesy. these people , they will talk to you, but they will make lots of excuses to stay away or to go away from that conversation such as 'ok, i gtg, i m very busy, i gt something to do'. Thus, is courtesy useful and good in that situation? I think, it is good that a person has a politeness but please don't make the people feel rejected.

Another issue that comes out from my mind is that why some people tend to promise or say something which they will not do i.e blank promises/ lip services? If that person does not want to do a particular act, then dont say it out. It will just like giving empty hope. I believe some of my friends agree that there are people who do that in a country, in fact most of the people in that country do so , so is it a norm for them to lip services? If there is only one or two persons who do so, it may be acceptable, but if everyone is doing that, I think the world around me or my mind would explode, sigh. Flirty en playful people may do that as well when they wan to court a person or when they are in a very playful state. Sometimes, these blank promises given by those people, will be a very great hope to receivers, but when it is turned out not to be true, the person who receives that hope will be sad or even hurt because of that.

happy chinese new year

i guess that it has been a long time since my last post. Anyway, it is just because i have nothing to write or i was just being lazy. Anyway hope all of you have a nice time for chinese new year and may good be with us.

frens 'effort'

I had quite an interesting conversation with my fren the other day, we were talking about friends relationships. It is amazing when we are able to contact old friends whom we have not met for years or at least there is communication even though we live apart as it is hard to do so. However, increases en development in technology such as friendster, msn, skype, etc have helped us to keep in touch with friends, thanks to the development.

However, these technologies wont help much if we as friends do not make efforts to contact each other. One party may make any effort to contact each other but not the other party, result of it would be nill. It happened to me during last summer holidays en in previous holidays, where it seemed to be so hard to ask my frens out (the one in my hometown) even though it was for lunch en it was on weekend, lots of excuses were given such as ' ohhh i have no driver, that place is too far away fr my place, can u come en fetch me ( guys u knw that fr my place to the resto en ur house is totally diff road' bla bla bla. en everytime i asked them out, there will just be lots of excuse, 'next time we go....' Since then , i have stopped to make any of invitation to ask them out. While , some would like to go out with you , just because she is salegirls en she wants to promote her products, if nt she will make lots of excuses as well.

Back to technology thingy, it seems that some people have misled the used of it by using it as 'sex thingy' etc. people who do that probably have no real sex life, they r bored , en nt really dare to face the world or some even do it just for fun, so there are disadvantages n advantages in the technology en we must be careful with those ppl.

celebrity 'marriage'

Marriage is supposed to be something which is holy and it can only be done once in a life time. Some couples have a long life marriage not only because the love that they still have with each other, but it is also because of the sense of togetherness and it is because of the tradition. However, some couples are totally different from the first one, these couples once they thought that their marriage cannot be ork out anymore and if both of them are strong headed, they will think that the best way to settle the problem is by getting divorce or even once the think that they do not love each other anymore, they will just get a divorce.

Latter type of couples happened happened mostly on celebrity. Once they think that they cant get along with each other, they will get divorce. Some couples are even worse because they want to get a divorce in order for publicity or to promote their movie. These days , the case of divorce among indonesian celebrities are out of limits , everyday we can see from the news that celebrity couples are getting divorce. They do not think of what will happen to the child , all that they want is to get divorce because they cant cope with each other. if lets say today i saw in the news that A couple is going to get a divorce, the next day , i can see again that B couple is also wnat to get divorce.It has became a trend in indonesia that the celebrities are getting divorce without thinking of the consequences. Some even divorce without giving reasons. It seems that they can just go to Pengadilan Agama to get a permission for divorce whenever they want. I am wondering on how many celebrities can the judges in that court meet through out these time.

Is marriage becoming an easy thing to do and the holiness of marriage has gone for a long time? It is true that divorce happened mostly in western country but that indonesian celebrity still live in indonesia which can be said as one of the conventional country in asia, then they are supposed to act in that way ie they should show a good value to their fans. Alot of celebrities, after they have divorced from their spouses, they will date another person. Marriage, nowadays seem to be something that once you want it to be done then you do it but once u do not want it anymore, you will just throw it away. Of course, all these celebrities, will show their pity faces on what are the problems that they are facing nw in order to get attention fr public

children act, pornography

According to the United Kingdom' law, an accused whose aged is below 18 or 16 , his or her name cannot be exposed to the public and no press should be in the court room. This is to ensure that the child is not exposed to the public and it is used to protect the interest of the child i.e it will not cause any harm for him/her in the future.

Every country has their own interpretation and rules to the system and how they are going to preserve and maintain their country. The law in the UK is totally opposite to Indonesian law. Recently, there is a case whereby a 14 year old boy has been trial in court because he was involved in a fight with another person. There were press during the trial, and the identity of the boy( name, place ) had been exposed. It seem that in Indonesia, it has no particular law or legistation which can be used to protect children. Most of the laws are quite old dated back during the Dutch government time. One of the example is pornography where they just want to implement it recently. It is still during a debate in the parliament. According to the old law, as long as it is morally explicit then it is porno. Every one has their own interpretation of the term 'morally explicit', a conservative person may define it in a narrow term while a liberal person may defini it liberally. There may be an old law to define pornography but practically, it is not like that. We can find a lot of prostitutes on the roads, women who wear sexy clothes almost everyday, and some cheap cinemas playing pornography . If there is a rape case, most of the time , they blame it on pornography, but in fact is that true?

The ban of playboy magazine, one of the example, have they checked the content of it before banning it? or is it just because of the name, therefore there is a ban?
Even if a pornography Act is coming out later, it should not be too strict ( women should not wear sexy clothes etc) as we live in a globalisation country, it is true that Indonesia has the most muslim citizen but do not forget that we still have other religius in that country. The argument for Balinese may be true as by enforcing pornography act too strictly, it will affect their tourism. In my submission, the house of representative must discuss this matter thoroughly , in detail and dont be rush as the act may affect everyone and even economy in indonesia and once it is enforceable, it will just be follow for a long time, and even if we want to change it, it may cause alot of controversy and the same thing, same procerdure may happen again.

Ada pepatah mengatakan 'bersatu kita teguh, bercerai kita runtuh'. Secara umumnya, pepatah ini menggalakkan kita supaya bersatu sebagai satu bangsa, satu negara dan sesama manusia. Ada persatuan untuk tujuan yang bagus, tetapi ada juga persatuan untuk tujuan yang tidak bagus contohnya bersatu untuk unjuk rasa yang di dalangi dengan bayaran. Apa bagusnya persatuan itu kalau persatuan itu tidak digunakan untuk kebaikan negara. Masih adakah persatuan kalau hal-hal seperti itu didalangi dengan adanya racist, kebencian antara sesama, kecemburuan, penuduhan dll.

Sikap- sikap manusia seperti dengki, cemburu, ada dalam hampir semua manusiawi, itu adalah salah satu sikap yang diberikan untuk mengimbangi sikap- sikap yang lain seperyi kasih, cinta. Jadi kalo persatuan yang didalangi dengan kasih dan cinta untuk kebaikan sesama, adalah persatuan yang lebih bagus daripada persatuan yg lain. Adakalanya, unjuk rasa yang dilakukan hanya untuk mengisi waktu luang yang ada pada diri mereka, dan ada yang melakukannya hanya untuk mendapat nama , tidak bisa dinampikkan kalau ada yang melakukan karena maksud yang baik tapi itu sudah jarang dapat di lihat di mata dunia sekarang ini.

Dengan adanya dunia yang porak porakda ini ie perang, racist , crisis, inflasi, apa yang akan terjadi kepada dunia ini 10 atau 20 tahun kedepan?

too bored

it has been a long time since my last blog, probably, it has almost been more than 5 months? i am just too bored that is the reason on why i blog. Sometimes, when i have a lot things to do, i feel quite stress out in the sense that i got no free time to think and to enjoy myself, everything must be in rush. However, when i am free, i am just feel that i am to free and feel bored to do anything eventhough i have works to do. I guess there is something wrong about me.
Further, i just do not know what is wrong with me, when it is my time to study, i am not be able to focus, in fact, this is my 3rd year , supposely to focus on my study not on craps stuffs (useless, nonsense) . Moreover, i dont think that i have been productive for these few months in which i supposed to do that. WHAT CAN I DO?
Another thing is if u mixed with people who have motivated to study, you will have that motivation as well, but you wont have that when you have mixed with people who have no such motivation. In life, one must have motivation or purpose on what they want to do in the future, they cannot said that what they do now is because others ask them to do or just because there is no other choice besides this is the way that they should do.

chicken egg fried rice

A plate of egg chicken friend rice and a cup of coke=5.05 pounds?oh gosh i am quite surprised of the price as in that amount of money, i can have foods for three days or even a week. It is just a simple meal where they put some egg in the rice,small pieces of chicken and beans,it tasted like kdu cafetaria' fried rice where they put alot of ajinomoto into the food. A plate of fried rice in malaysia is only about rm 4 and in rupiah,the most expensive is about rp10000 with all seafoods on it. Comparing the price of a fried rice in either msia or indonesia to UK, it is totally different, if we are converting the money to ringgit,the price of that rice would be rm 35 and in rupiah is about rp100000,where i can have 10 plates of nice fried rice, or even i can go to eat in luxury cafe or restaurant.
It seems that westerner foods are cheaper than chinese or oriental foods.I can get KFC,MCDonald,subway,Miss Millies, each of it less than 4 pounds and that is include drinks.On the other hand for the asian foods, it costs so much.It is rather to cook by myself than having such simple expensive food.It is worth it if the food is nice,like the one that i ate in London (italian foods) which cost about 19 pounds but that is almost a complete course

fade up

i am really fade up with my life. i am sick of the situation in indonesia, things that happening around me these fews days, friends,relatives and family that i have here. some people call u just because they want something from u, another thing is once they are cught up in doin something, they just ask u whether u would like to join them or not. Some people even dare to yell at u eventhough they are younger and we did nothing to provoke or do something wrong to them, they think that they are too great, they are able to do all the things by themselves and we are useless. The truth is they are just good in certain things but they are pretending that they are good in everything. "THE GREATEST GOD OF THE WORLD"

Another type of people is the people who are too busy body, they are too kepo in the sense that they are willing to do what others ask them to do but once a problem arises they will be mad at the person who helps them or vice versa. My advice to these type of people is stay out of this and dont be too kepo, it is good to help others but are they going to help you back once u gt problem?

Further, stay out of spoilt childs as if you were in trouble with them or they have a trouble which relates to you, the parents of these childs will come and confront the matter with you. These child will not deal with tyhe matter and they always think that they are right and innocent.