persuasive/'thick face'

It is nice when a person is surrounded by one's friends and family as one is not going to feel lonely and being left out, it is the feeling of being 'love', warmth and welcoming. It is nice too when one sometimes called by one's friends to go out or just to have chit chats and compare it to a person who lives far away from one's family and having a few friends. However, in my opinion, no matter how much one is close with friends and family, one in somehow still needs one' private time i.e. being alone and do whatever one wants to do to oneself. One will have 'peace' and possibly one will be able to think clearly on what one has done so far to one's life. I believe all of us need/ want this kind of time.

On the other hand, there is an existence of a human being that do not know how to respect of one's own private time/ busy time. This type of human being calls you, when he/she feels boring and have nothing to do, thats ok (I do that sometimes but to my friends who are nt busy). Sometimes, we are just being busy and have no time to talk to him/her and we have put alot of signals that we are 'busy' but ths type of human beings are just illiterate in reading that signs. If they are not be able to reach you through chat box, they will even try to call you, just because they are bored. However, when they have works to do, or going out for funs, dont expect that these human beings will come and find you. I am just very irritate and annoyed because of this type of person. It is like they do not think of others whether they are available or nt, what they do think are all about themselves i.e. they are bored and they disturb whenever there are people ( dont care whether the other party is busy or nt or do not want to be disturb by ths people) to disturb. Probably they do not know how to read signs. Any idea on how to deal with ths kind of person? gv me gv me

something that comes out fr my mind en i put it straightly

I went to TGI Fridays for lunch this afternoon with some of my friends (FL, her husband,her daughther, EL and LY). It was a very enjoyable lunch indeed everyone was enjoying themselves. Fl's husband seems to be a very nice person, knowledgable and open minded person and so does Fl, while her daughter is very pretty. I was happy about the lunch as everything was according to the plan ( its just some silly en mistake of time but it could be settle down). Other than that, I gained lots of information/ we shared alot of informations. There is a difference when one be friend with peers around one's age/ older/mature and peers whom are much youngers. As if one befriend with the older one, one is able to gain/share knowledge en information with them . while if one mix more with the younger one/ nt so mature, one tend to think more like them- more towards playing/ play around exception when the younger one is matured. Overall, it was a very enjoyable, nice,en happy lunch exception that the foods came out one hour late en the waitress was quite rude as he kept coming and asked whether we needed drinks or nt and straightly gave us the bill without us asking him.

On the way back, i was on the bus with my friends and i was observing a mother with her two children. Her children looked to be untidy en not neat. Whether a woman is a good mother or not can be seen from the way they dress and attitude of the children. What happened was ths woman was sleeping while carrying her toddler and the toddler just kept crying . Another thing was she put her daughter in a tramp en just took care of the daughter after the daughter felt off from the tramp. The children do not look really well care of. I know that it is hard to be a mum, in fact I do not think , i would be able to take care of children , looking /considering my current situations. However, no matter how hard it is to be a mum, she is still responsible for the well being of the children/ must know how to take care of them.the well being of a child is on the hand of the mum, whether the children will be smart kids, intelligent or have mannered, it is depended on the parents on how they do teach them.
The reason i said that it is hard to be a mum because she must pay a full attention to the children as some children are very active and once u turn ur head away, they will do other things which may be dangerous to themselves. It is even harder when the mum is a career woman, there are sleepless nights , on the other hand, they need to focus on their works. I can imagine, how hard it was for my mum to take care of me and i just find out the reasons why she is just so protective over me sometimes. Some parents always think that their children are still children no matter how old they are, until there is certain time when the parents think it is time to let go then just let it go, for eg marriage. but some parents are still cant let go of their childern ie to treat the children as adults even thought the children have gt married. I believe there are a lot of reasosn for that.

me, myself and I

Here I am, sitting in front of my laptop, have 2 cans of guiness, with no one in my flat( all of them have gone back to their hometown :) how nice it is,i wish that my hometown is just couples of miles away:()) thinking of wht should i write in my blog for ths week. I suppose to do my works but I just cannot be bothered with that, thinking that there is still so much time before the deadline, HOW LAZY I AM!!!
Sometimes, people judge me from the first time they saw me- like : Alice is too quiet,studious, nerd or even have no fun. However, once they get to know me better, they tend to be surprised as I am not the way I am as what they thought to be. People/my friends get to know me better by the time flies, it is because that I do not really talk about my achievements or my personal life to persons who I do not really know. I felt it very strange to talk freely to not too known friends about my personal life/love life, probably i am either too secretive about it or conservative. Another reason is because I do not think of the use of me telling everyone about my personal/love life as even if i tell them, they will not be able to help me with that, so why should i burden them with the problem? Like the other day, I was talking to one of my mates/ asking him about valentine's thingy, suddenly in the middle of 'questioning and answering' time; a question of 'who is he' who gave me a card came out. I did not answer him. The reason is not because I do not want to answer him or think that he is a 'busybody' but it is because even if i tell him, he does not know who the guy is.
On the other hand, if I were a different type of Alice Angko, like the one who is more open. For example the one who can talk freely about herself, it makes me think that I am a very show off person. I want people or my friends to know me because of who I am- alice is alice; not because of I am the daughter of who and who or what I have achieved or gained so far in my life. One will get to know about it when one has known me for quite some time or throughly.
Another problem about me is I can be very cautious sometimes about everything when I am with someone who i do not really know. Thus , when I am replying to their questions,it will be quite slow as I need to think on how i should answer him/her or even sometimes i will just be quite as i do not know them. I can be very quite, dont talk much when i feel uncomfortable or when i have no mood to talk or even when i have no topic to talk to that person. It can be seen from my facial expression as well ( prob i am just too transparent sometimes :)) I tend to let strangers/not close mates to think about what they want to think about me, 'let them be as you do not knw me, you do not know who i am'. if thats the way they want to think about me, let them be- some has even called me as a nerd. I can be playful when I am with my close friends as they are trustable but not with 'strangers' as I need to take care of myself. In fact, i do have a friend who i have known for about five years and he has just known how playful ( study hard and play hard) i am last year (2006). I think it is necessary to gain trust among friends / close friends as they are your second family. Sometimes, I can feel straight away whether that person is trustable or not, but further observation need to be done to clarify it as instinct can be wrong. A person is trustable/responsible/you feel comfortable with, when you can click straight away with them. I can feel that too when that person is interested in talkin to me.
There are indeed times for study and times for playing, some people do not know how to differentiate it.
well thats what i have in my mind so far,or thats about me so far...to be continue.. if i still have thing s to write about myself. :)

Lists of the things that I hate/dont like:
1. waiting people especially people who know that others are waiting but they still take their own sweet time for make up etc without considering the presence of the others who wait for her/him.
2. people who are 'caper'( cari perhatian)/ want to get attraction/over-reacted
3.fake people such as they can be so nice to each other like praising each other but behind they can be back stabbers. one is able to say whatever nice en b*** things but whatever she said is nothing- blank
4. waiting people shopping especially the one who is not able to made up her mind one/ lembek- the one who keep trying one cloth after another but in the end, nt buying anything, etc.
5 wasting time without doing anything
6. 'insisting/ forceable' people- people who like to force others to do something for her/him even though it is not that person's job to do so.
That's it so far...

Some professional law course students tend to think that other professional law courses is not as difficult as the former. The other day, i was talking to one of BVC students through msn, first thing that she asked me was 'which course are u in'?
my replied 'master' and the next thing that came out from her mouth was 'master is not hard rite? BVC is very difficult /BVC is very difficult compared to master'. hello, how can u know that master course is not tough as you have never taken master course before. I believe these type of students always think that they are superior compare to other professional law courses. It cannot be deniable that BVC is tough but each law course after LLB is not easy as well, I believe each law student is struggling to get their works done and no one is superior to who and whom. Pikiran cetek lar!!

Is it alright to jugde a person from his/her appearance/first impression etc? A lot of people do that, including me sometimes ;P. However, the best way to judge a person is to know them throughly before claiming wht type of persons are they. On the other hand, sometimes, one can just sense whether that person is trustable, fake or... etc. any opinion/suggestion?

fri 16 march 2007

it is a glass of beer with a phrase 'good health'.....?????!!!!
glasses in 0 degrees

my first can of guinness since last year ;P

law and medical students; abortion

Last night, I did have a very interesting discussion/conversation with one of my friends, she was telling me that law students and medical students have different perspectives in dealing with a particular topic. Is that true? According to her, that medical students tend to speak based on scientific evidence ( the existence of a particular thing must be proved before they can say it out) as they are dealing with human bodies. On the other hand, law students tend to twist our words, that we know how to play with words and not necessarily based on facts. In my opinion, it is true that as a lawyer, one must be able to use nice en beautiful words to impress clients, judges, opponents, etc but we do must speak based on the facts as well. It is because, speaking out anything ( words are beautifully come out) does not mean that one is going to win the case without grounds to support the case ( exceptional prob in closing speech). It is true that one must know how to twist words but it is only one of the factors.
Looking/Comparing these two fields fr my point of view; basically are almost similar in the sense that both dealing with humans, and the life and death of a person. For the medicals, they deal with diseases in human bodies, how to treat and cure them, life of patients etc. While for the law, we deal with human beings as well and whether the client is going to be free or serve his/her sentence behind the bar( jail, life imprisonment, death sentence).
Secondly, another topic that came out from our mind was about abortion. According to Abortion Act 1967, abortion is allowed to be performed when continuance of pregnancy involved a greater risk to physical/ mental health of the woman/ her existing children. The woman actual/ reasonably foreseeable future environment must be taken into account. Abortion up to 24 weeks are allowed if substantial risk that the child when born would suffer 'such physical/ mental abnormalities as to be seriously handicapped. If there is 'foreseeable future' that the unborn child is going to be a handicapped, is that mean that handicapped child has no right to enjoy life in this world? How about is the 'foreseeable future' or evidence/ report which stated that the child will be handicapped, turn out to be inaccurate? it will not just ruin the right to life of the unborn child but also any other right which he/ she is entitled to.
So, should abortion be legalize or not? in my opinion , legalization of abortion is good as when abortion is not legalized, pregnant girls or women may just go to unhealthy or non-hygienic clinics etc to have abortions. However, there may be disadvantages of legalization of abortion.
Without looking at the law, what is the best and suitable time to have an abortion if a girl/ a woman gets pregnant? I think there are a lot of factors that need to be taken into account such as age, environment i.e. society/family which one has been brought up, one's situations etc. Age- whether the girl/ woman is too young or too old to be pregnant, environment- whether the society is from modernize / liberal society or conservative society, and one 's situations- factors surrounding her.

You Know You're From Britain When...

You believe that Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday are all good nights for drinking. Sunday day is also entirely reasonable. You're always a half an hour late to work ... no-one notices or cares. Coming to work with a hangover is entirely accepted and indeed expected at least once a week. You can actually give directions to some of those annoying tourists in Oxford Street! You step over a drunk in the tube station rather than offering to help them. You don't even bother looking out of the window when you get up in the morning to check what the day is like. You know it is overcast. You consider a suit to be normal attire for the pub. You expect men to actually cut, comb and style their hair (using hair products). And to wear decent clothes. You dissolve in laughter when listening to the funny accent of the Aussie international telephone operator (or on TV!). You think �40 for a haircut is quite reasonable. You can't remember what 'customer service' means. After a big night out you find yourself looking for a Curry house More than three hours sunlight on summer days seems excessive. You don't think twice about tipping your hairdresser You finish every sentence with 'Cheers' or 'Yeah'. You only just realise you have lost your sunnies, you left them in Greece 2 summers ago. You like English cuisine. I mean, it's hard to beat a full English breakfast. You are on to your 6th umbrella and your second overcoat... this year You've bought a disposable baby BBQ from Tesco. A day at the beach means wearing the warmest clothes you own while standing on golf ball-size pebbles and the thought of swimming doesn't even enter your head. You always call soccer football and you have a team and it's not Manchester United. You don't think twice about buying a packaged sandwich. A sunny lunchtime means searching for a patch of grass and stripping off practically down to your underwear You've accepted queuing as a way of life. You believe that every American is a fatass addicted to hamburgers and hotdogs. You despise the French (but then, who doesn't?). You actually get these jokes and pass them on to other friends from Britan.

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Last week, i had a seminar of forestry resources on natural resources and we were discussing points whereby women in developing countries especially the one who live in rural areas; has no right or it is their culture to be quiet, where the men are the one who speak out for them. It is believed that men are the bread winner and the head of households therefore, every decision made by the men. However, for works such as picking or collecting woods are done by the women but they do not have rights to say what's on their mind. On the other hand, women in developed countries, have more courage/ rights to speak out for their own, it is either because they are more educated compare to its counterparts or those countries have been through modernization.
In developing countries, such as Indonesia, i remembered when i was young, the elderly people such as parents,relatives, teachers, would tell us that husband/father is the breadwinner and he is the head of the household. Isnt that can be interpreted that men i.e husband/father is the one who decide on everything? while the role of a wife is inferior than the husband? while some believe that husband and wife have equal position. I think it affects us when we study overseas as it can be seen that girls/ women from developing countries are more reserved and shy compared to developed one. Another problem is because of the language.