would be it worth treating someone nicely even though he/she has treated you like shit? you may not think that one has treated you like that as you think that is normal, but to an outsider it is like shit. You have been nice to that person because you have felt in love with one and perhaps, as a result of that 'love', all you do are to get his attention such as act nicely ( 'hopefully he/she will love me back'!!). Would it be worth to do so when you have no clue on what will it be in the future? he/ she may just still a stranger, a fren, a mate, or....
In order to make that things work, one must have courage to say it out, but there will be a consequence such as u may be rejected or even accepted, well it is depended on respond from another party. If it is rejected, sometimes the feeling of 'shame' may come out especially if these two persons are the type who meet each other every day, there will be awkward feeling, nothing will be the same. However, it will be a 'major happiness' when the answer is 'yes'.
After all ths efforts, i think it is depended on the parties themselves and whether they do have fate to be with each other, it may be ridiculous to believe in fate but without it nothing will work out, no matter how hard you try to be nice and try to get to know one. Sometimes, it is unfair things in this world where one party may in deeply in love with the other party but nothing in return from the other party, it hurts. Why can it be where one party love the other party and the other party love that person back? in such a case, there will be no pain, which i think is good.

Another issue in my mind is , last year during my final year undergraduate course in Bristol, i used to listen to people greeting each other by saying 'hey u alrite' ( probably a short term for hey are u alrite?). However, this year, I am getting use to listen people say 'hey, how is it going' 'wht u been up to '
' wht u been up to' is ok but 'how is it going' how are we going to reply when there is nothing going on?

women' sensitivity, politeness and blank promises/lip services

Is it true to say that women are more sensitive compared to men? as sometimes, women are able to sense as to whether they are accepted in a particular situation or not. For example, we are able to sense the acceptance when people are willing to talk and stay longer with us. The feeling of being not accepted arises when they are willing to talk to you but it is because of courtesy. these people , they will talk to you, but they will make lots of excuses to stay away or to go away from that conversation such as 'ok, i gtg, i m very busy, i gt something to do'. Thus, is courtesy useful and good in that situation? I think, it is good that a person has a politeness but please don't make the people feel rejected.

Another issue that comes out from my mind is that why some people tend to promise or say something which they will not do i.e blank promises/ lip services? If that person does not want to do a particular act, then dont say it out. It will just like giving empty hope. I believe some of my friends agree that there are people who do that in a country, in fact most of the people in that country do so , so is it a norm for them to lip services? If there is only one or two persons who do so, it may be acceptable, but if everyone is doing that, I think the world around me or my mind would explode, sigh. Flirty en playful people may do that as well when they wan to court a person or when they are in a very playful state. Sometimes, these blank promises given by those people, will be a very great hope to receivers, but when it is turned out not to be true, the person who receives that hope will be sad or even hurt because of that.

happy chinese new year

i guess that it has been a long time since my last post. Anyway, it is just because i have nothing to write or i was just being lazy. Anyway hope all of you have a nice time for chinese new year and may good be with us.